By: Shudiara McMillian
Being a good parent involves many important aspects other than just providing the best for your children. That is all fine and dandy, but you need to help them build good character, not just aid in helping them build themselves off of good looks or material things. Teach them to love and respect everyone no matter what racial background they are from. Children repeat what they hear and what they see, and it all starts from home. Shallow, one track mind children grow up to be shallow, ignorant, one-track mind adults who only see beauty in what they were taught all their lives.
Give your children something they can hold on too. They can grow up with thinking they are superior because you told them they were, but later in life they can so destroyed as adults. They will eventually find themselves taking jabs at another person just to make themselves feel good. Do not destroy or taint your children, teach them to accept all people with all different features, and skin colors, and hair textures. If you are a person with or without children and you struggle with thinking you are superior and are not accepting of different people but you want to make a change, I will keep you in prayer that God changes your heart and mind on the matter. It is not your fault you only copied what you were taught. God loves us all and if you are striving to be Christ-like know that he accepts us all and does not see skin color, hair texture, or facial features. With saying that I am not even going to tell you to get on my level or on another person’s level that has total confidence, but get on God and Jesus level; get like them.
I also think the media has a lot to do with the world accepting all types of beauty, because they only put one image of beauty on top (y’all know what I’m talking about). It’s not just a black thing, but other ethnic backgrounds struggle with this very thing. Beauty is not what is on the outside, beauty starts on the inside and it shines through from within for everyone to see. This world is very shallow and judgmental, but as an individual you can make it a little better by doing your part. Build other women up and care about them. Be a good example to your children, nieces, nephews, and god-children. Real Men do your part and shut your boys down when they have conversations that pick women apart. You can make a change let your light shine on that darkness.