- What do u need in a woman? God didn’t give Adam a woman until he needed her. God had to wait for a need in Adam before he made Eve, which is why he put Adam in a deep sleep and took out one of his ribs. He created space that only eve could occupy for Adam…….and Adam knew she was the one for him from the minute he saw her 🙂
- Marriage isn’t all about sex!
- You will feel a space in your life that can only be filled by the one God fashioned for you before the foundation of the world.
- You will know the one when you meet the one because the chemistry lines up.
Stage 1: Seek the Face of God
God still answers prayers! Marriage has a way of affecting your destiny. When you pray, open your eyes because if u close them – you might miss the person God brought your way during the prayer. Abraham didn’t close his eyes while he was praying, or else he knew he would have missed his wife.
Stage 2: Make Sure That You Position Yourself to be Discovered
Women don’t run after men BUT you must make yourself discoverable. Make sure that you position yourself to get discovered! grow physically. Become physically mature from a girl to a woman and a boy to a man. Grow emotionally stable. You must be spiritually growing so pay attention to your growth. Grow while you are single. Develop yourself by growing economically. Before you think of getting married, get your own place and start on a clean slate. With that said :: get out of your mother’s house. Grow financially. This is the day and age where both parties are now going to work. They both have to work to make it work.
Stage 3: Meeting Him / Her
You can’t get married to someone who is outside of your kingdom, meaning an unbeliever. It takes a lot of effort to bring someone up with you and it takes a whole lot less effort for them to bring you down. Even if the person “looks” like a christian, wait for the them to become a christian.
Stage 4: Get Your Parents Involved
When we fall in love, we get clouded vision so our parents or guardians can see the dangers that we cant see. Remember, good parents normally want peaceful lives for their kids.
Stage 5: Get Your Pastors Involved
Your pastors are dedicated to covering you spiritually, therefore it would be a good idea to get them involved. While you may see (and.or be blinded) by the physical face of the relationship, they see beyond that. Jesus has given them a stronger spirit than yours to see deeper. Holy Spirit reveals to them certain characteristics, traits, and qualities that you may sweep under the rug or have overlooked simply because “you are in love”. If you are in a healthy church with spiritually mature pastors, then it would be a wise idea to get their input. After all, they want to see your marriage become a success story – they wouldn’t want you to waste time with a bum. So schedule that appointment today!
Key Passage :: Genesis 24 (Today’s New International Version)
The Love Story of Isaac and Rebekah
1 Abraham was now very old, and the LORD had blessed him in every way. 2 He said to the senior servant in his household, the one in charge of all that he had, “Put your hand under my thigh. 3 I want you to swear by the LORD, the God of heaven and the God of earth, that you will not get a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I am living, 4but will go to my country and my own relatives and get a wife for my son Isaac.” 5The servant asked him, “What if the woman is unwilling to come back with me to this land? Shall I then take your son back to the country you came from?” 6 “Make sure that you do not take my son back there,” Abraham said. 7 “The LORD, the God of heaven, who brought me out of my father’s household and my native land and who spoke to me and promised me on oath, saying, ‘To your offspring[a] I will give this land’—he will send his angel before you so that you can get a wife for my son from there. 8 If the woman is unwilling to come back with you, then you will be released from this oath of mine. Only do not take my son back there.” 9So the servant put his hand under the thigh of his master Abraham and swore an oath to him concerning this matter.10 Then the servant left, taking with him ten of his master’s camels loaded with all kinds of good things from his master. He set out for Aram Naharaim[b] and made his way to the town of Nahor. 11He had the camels kneel down near the well outside the town; it was toward evening, the time the women go out to draw water.12 Then he prayed, “LORD, God of my master Abraham, make me successful today, and show kindness to my master Abraham. 13 See, I am standing beside this spring, and the daughters of the townspeople are coming out to draw water. 14May it be that when I say to a girl, ‘Please let down your jar that I may have a drink,’ and she says, ‘Drink, and I’ll water your camels too’—let her be the one you have chosen for your servant Isaac. By this I will know that you have shown kindness to my master.”15 Before he had finished praying, Rebekah came out with her jar on her shoulder. She was the daughter of Bethuel son of Milkah, who was the wife of Abraham’s brother Nahor. 16The girl was very beautiful, a virgin; no man had ever slept with her. She went down to the spring, filled her jar and came up again.17The servant hurried to meet her and said, “Please give me a little water from your jar.”18“Drink, my lord,” she said, and quickly lowered the jar to her hands and gave him a drink.19 After she had given him a drink, she said, “I’ll draw water for your camels too, until they have had enough to drink.” 20 So she quickly emptied her jar into the trough, ran back to the well to draw more water, and drew enough for all his camels. 21Without saying a word, the man watched her closely to learn whether or not the LORD had made his journey successful.22 When the camels had finished drinking, the man took out a gold nose ring weighing a beka[c] and two gold bracelets weighing ten shekels.[d] 23Then he asked, “Whose daughter are you? Please tell me, is there room in your father’s house for us to spend the night?”24 She answered him, “I am the daughter of Bethuel, the son that Milkah bore to Nahor.” 25And she added, “We have plenty of straw and fodder, as well as room for you to spend the night.”26 Then the man bowed down and worshiped the LORD, 27saying, “Praise be to the LORD, the God of my master Abraham, who has not abandoned his kindness and faithfulness to my master. As for me, the LORD has led me on the journey to the house of my master’s relatives.”28 The girl ran and told her mother’s household about these things. 29 Now Rebekah had a brother named Laban, and he hurried out to the man at the spring. 30 As soon as he had seen the nose ring, and the bracelets on his sister’s arms, and had heard Rebekah tell what the man said to her, he went out to the man and found him standing by the camels near the spring. 31“Come, you who are blessed by the LORD,” he said. “Why are you standing out here? I have prepared the house and a place for the camels.”32 So the man went to the house, and the camels were unloaded. Straw and fodder were brought for the camels, and water for him and his men to wash their feet. 33Then food was set before him, but he said, “I will not eat until I have told you what I have to say.”“Then tell us,” Laban said.34 So he said, “I am Abraham’s servant. 35 The LORD has blessed my master abundantly, and he has become wealthy. He has given him sheep and cattle, silver and gold, male and female servants, and camels and donkeys. 36 My master’s wife Sarah has borne him a son in her old age, and he has given him everything he owns. 37 And my master made me swear an oath, and said, ‘You must not get a wife for my son from the daughters of the Canaanites, in whose land I live, 38but go to my father’s family and to my own clan, and get a wife for my son.’39“Then I asked my master, ‘What if the woman will not come back with me?’40 “He replied, ‘The LORD, before whom I have walked faithfully, will send his angel with you and make your journey a success, so that you can get a wife for my son from my own clan and from my father’s family. 41Then, when you go to my clan, you will be released from my oath even if they refuse to give her to you—you will be released from my oath.’42 “When I came to the spring today, I said, ‘LORD, God of my master Abraham, if you will, please grant success to the journey on which I have come. 43 See, I am standing beside this spring. If a young woman comes out to draw water and I say to her, “Please let me drink a little water from your jar,” 44and if she says to me, “Drink, and I’ll draw water for your camels too,” let her be the one the LORD has chosen for my master’s son.’ 45“Before I finished praying in my heart, Rebekah came out, with her jar on her shoulder. She went down to the spring and drew water, and I said to her, ‘Please give me a drink.’46“She quickly lowered her jar from her shoulder and said, ‘Drink, and I’ll water your camels too.’ So I drank, and she watered the camels also.47“I asked her, ‘Whose daughter are you?’“She said, ‘The daughter of Bethuel son of Nahor, whom Milkah bore to him.’“Then I put the ring in her nose and the bracelets on her arms, 48 and I bowed down and worshiped the LORD. I praised the LORD, the God of my master Abraham, who had led me on the right road to get the granddaughter of my master’s brother for his son. 49Now if you will show kindness and faithfulness to my master, tell me; and if not, tell me, so I may know which way to turn.”50 Laban and Bethuel answered, “This is from the LORD; we can say nothing to you one way or the other. 51Here is Rebekah; take her and go, and let her become the wife of your master’s son, as the LORD has directed.”52 When Abraham’s servant heard what they said, he bowed down to the ground before the LORD. 53 Then the servant brought out gold and silver jewelry and articles of clothing and gave them to Rebekah; he also gave costly gifts to her brother and to her mother. 54Then he and the men who were with him ate and drank and spent the night there.When they got up the next morning, he said, “Send me on my way to my master.”55 But her brother and her mother replied, “Let the girl remain with us ten days or so; then you[e]may go.”56But he said to them, “Do not detain me, now that the LORD has granted success to my journey. Send me on my way so I may go to my master.”57 Then they said, “Let’s call the girl and ask her about it.” 58So they called Rebekah and asked her, “Will you go with this man?”“I will go,” she said.59 So they sent their sister Rebekah on her way, along with her nurse and Abraham’s servant and his men. 60And they blessed Rebekah and said to her,“Our sister, may you increase to thousands upon thousands; may your offspring possess the cities of their enemies.”61Then Rebekah and her attendants got ready and mounted their camels and went back with the man. So the servant took Rebekah and left.62 Now Isaac had come from Beer Lahai Roi, for he was living in the Negev. 63 He went out to the field one evening to meditate,[f] and as he looked up, he saw camels approaching. 64 Rebekah also looked up and saw Isaac. She got down from her camel 65and asked the servant, “Who is that man in the field coming to meet us?”“He is my master,” the servant answered. So she took her veil and covered herself.66 Then the servant told Isaac all he had done. 67 Isaac brought her into the tent of his mother Sarah, and he married Rebekah. So she became his wife, and he loved her; and Isaac was comforted after his mother’s death.